One of the greatest things I've unlocked in the past few years is to learn to find the lessons in situations instead of just beating myself up over them.
I know, it's easier said than done sometimes.
But... I swear it is the key to growth. If I'm in a personal situation that feels like it has gone sideways, instead of beating yourself up over what I could have done differently, I tend to search for the lessons instead of focusing on my faults.
Sometimes those faults are what reveal the lessons. But sometimes, getting curious about your life instead of judging yourself really is powerful.
So today we're gonna chat about how I've done this in one of the most difficult situations I've ever gone through (and still am) - being no-contact with most of my adult children. (Because I do still have a great relationship with our oldest daughter.)
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Lessons I've Learned in 2 Years of No Contact
I didn’t expect estrangement to become one of the quiet threads running through my work, but lately, it keeps finding me.
Women have been messaging me about it. Mothers have been whispering it like a confession they’re almost afraid to say out loud. And last week inside my online coven, our conversation turned toward strained and estranged relationships with adult children, and I was reminded all over again how many women are carrying this kind of grief in silence.
Not because they don’t care, but rather because they care so much it has nearly consumed them.
