Lately, there’s been this heavy hum beneath the surface, a sadness sitting like a fog in our bones.
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But the deeper I feel into it (and ask you directly)... I’m realizing something big:
That sadness?
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It’s not weakness.
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It’s rage that never got permission to rise.
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And today I wanna talk about it. Because ALL emotions are valid... but some are more effective for change than others.

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I’ve been watching this wave roll through the collective –
A heaviness in women’s hearts. A grief we can’t always name.
And when I asked my community what emotion they were feeling the most?

Sadness came in first.
​Anger followed closely behind.

But here’s the thing:
That sadness?
It’s often just rage that never got permission to rise.

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Because anger without regulation is a recipe for disaster. Tap into your anger. USE IT. Then calm your ass down so you can carry on with finding joy.

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Wanna DO SOMETHING with that anger?

I’ve got you.

We’re going to alchemize it into spellwork in a special session inside the Soft Life Society—and you’re invited to join us.

Usually, classes like this are just for SLS members.
But this one felt too important to keep behind closed doors.
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So for this special session, I’m opening it up to everyone.It's live on June 3rd at 7 pm central time, but it is just as impactful on the replay (which you get access to when you join.)

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Playlist of the Week: Fragile Like a Bomb.

Some days we dance, other days we rage. And this is for when you need BOTH. If you're a girl who loves 90s music, some feral car karaoke and tapping into your Alanis energy...

This playlist is for you.
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Because, all things in moderation. Including moderation.​
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FEEL those emotions, my friend. Then take action. Reset your nervous system. Rinse + repeat.

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Let's take this week by storm.

We can be both soft and bold.
We can loving and hold people accountable.
We can be mad as hell and spread kindness like confetti.

Two things can be true,
can support one another...
and the dichotomy can be fucking magical.

Sending you lots of rage - both in action and in celebration.

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